Anam Cara

Anam Cara is the celtic idea of soul friends. Pray, asking for guidance. Find your soul friend and join together and become one family.

Always practice family values, in every detail of your life.

Be kind, friendly and polite. Be calm, gentle, peaceful, fair and compassionate.

One of the distinguishing features of human nature and civilization is that men and women make love face to face, eye to eye. That most intimate relationship is the origin of civilization. Its the difference between wild animals and civilized human beings. There are probably some examples of that in the animal kingdom, but it is very rare.

One man and one woman join together and become one family. Children are born and raised in that family and carry on the knowledge, traditions and culture they learn in their family.

Civilization has become much more advanced now, and it is putting a lot of stress on our families. One thing for sure is that, trying to replace our grandparents with experts, is an unmitigated disaster.

Education is obviously a good thing. Get as much education as you can. Just always understand that, all the education in the world does not change the biological, psychological and spiritual reality that, the marriage of one man and one woman is the most intimate relationship. Faith is the foundation and the marriage of one man and one woman, raising kids together, is the heart of human nature and civilization.

Speis is your faith, family values, work ethic and culture. Start cultivating your speis in your self, then your family, your local community and throughout human civilization.

Individuals suffering from any kind of intersex disorder should be treated with the utmost loving kindness and respect, however, that should not divert us from cultivating the institution of marriage and promulgating traditional family values.

If you are suffering from any kind of sexual disorder, then focus on studying and practicing the unchanging eternal Faith of God, in every detail of your life. Read the Sacred Writings every morning and every evening. Pray. Meditate. Seek medical assistence.

One really good mantra I’ve been taught is to repeat the phrase, “Thy will be done, not mine.” Another one is to say, “I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you. I love you.” over and over again (Ho’oponopono). If you do this, you will be communing with divine Providence, the most powerful Force in the universe. Use the Force. Use your Speis. You will be replacing your bad ideas with some good ideas.

It will obviously take some time to replace any bad habits. I can remember walking around the streets of Denver, repeating the phrase ‘Thy will be done, not mine,” for hours. Sometimes out loud, other times silently. I was begging God to, “Take my will and my life. Make me stay clean! Guide me in my recovery. Show me how to live.” That is the Third Step Prayer of Narcotics Anonymous, except that I added the phrase, “Make me stay clean.”

I’ve been clean for almost 30 years now. I’ve used the same strategy to replace all kinds of bad habits, including sexual misconduct, with healthy ideas and spirituality and complete and permanent submission to the one true God of all mankind, so help me God.

While you’re busy kicking all your bad habits, work on developing a prosperous career. Figure out a way to earn a decent living. Get really productive and trade whatever you produce, in our one world wide, free marketplace. Working on getting your financial affairs in order first and then cultivating your romantic relationship is a good strategy, because being prosperous will make you more attractive.

Perhaps several of your friends and relatives will be directly involved in your business. Whether one, or several or all of you are working together in your career, work on making sure that, you all have a healthy relationship with each other and with your holistic home office based cottage industry.

I think that working together as families is a good idea. Many family farms and stores are better than these gigantic corporations, with thousands of identical stores or gigantic agribusinesses destroying our farmland with chemicals and not replenishing the soil with the nutrients necessary for life to thrive.

Again, I am not totally against big business. Corporations do things no small business can possibly do. We just need the people who work in the corporations to respect the free enterprise of the people. Organize your business to support free enterprise, instead of suppressing it.

Just think about the meaning of holistic and develop healthy habits and holistic relationships. Make yourself attractive by being either good at making money or good at taking care of people. If you’re best at making money, then make sure you do so in a productive and not harmful way. If you’re best at serving people, then do so in a way that is profitable for you and your family.

The point is, everyone needs to be responsible for your material affairs. Get good at that. Then, go play with the men and women in your neighborhood. Find yourself a girlfriend or boyfriend.

For most people this will come natural. Some of us will need to consciously take steps to find a mate and cultivate a relationship with them.

You can meet your spouse anywhere. In my opinion, your spiritual fellowship is the best place to find a spouse. That way you’ll have similar ideas and opinions about spirituality. Be careful at work. You don’t want to get in trouble for harassing anyone.

Whatever you do, do not look for a spouse while you’re intoxicated. Your judgement is severely impaired whenever you are under the influence of any mind altering substance. Why would you want to make one of your most important decisions while you’re in such a degrading state of consciousness?

A good relationship doesn’t just happen automatically. You have to work at it. Be kind to each other. Respect each other. Work with each other and play with each other.

Your family is the most primal social organization in human nature and civilization, and along with your friends and associates, are an essential facet of our economy. HomoSpeis University would be incomplete without a section about the relationship between our home offices and our families, friends and associates.

Consult with every member of your family, every day. Spend some special time, at least once a week, together with your whole family, consulting about everything. It should be a spiritual gathering. Study the Word of God together as a family. Guests are welcome. There ought to be serious consultations about any problems, and fun and entertainment as well. Education of everyone, especially children, is a very important objective of the gathering.

Practice humility and cultivate a healthy sense of esteem, for your self, your family and everyone else. And remember, that family home evening is an end in itself. Make it fun and interesting and educational for everyone involved. Don’t get complacent and wander off, because you have some more interesting things to do. It’s ok to miss it occasionally, just not very often. Do it every week for your entire life on earth.

Your spouse is your best friend. At least, I want my spouse to be my best friend. Your kids depend on you to be a good example and to make sure they’re well educated. Teach by example and by precept. Precept is what you say, example is what you do. They are both important ways that all human beings learn.

I think it is more healthy for families to live together for our entire lives. Grand parents and grand children should be living in the same home. That would be good for everyone. At least stay close. The Internet makes it even easier to stay in close relationships with your family.

Your religion is another vitally important facet of a healthy social life. Practice spirituality in every detail of your life, especially your family and your professional career. Worship God, alone in private, and together with your family, friends and community.

Make sure everyone wins in all of your business transactions. If any one loses, that’s corruption, not business. Fair trade is an essential attribute of free trade. Free trade and fair trade are the yin and yang of commerce. You can’t have either one without the other.

Home office entrepreneurs need to be mindful of your relationships. Avoid isolation. Get out and have a cup of coffee, or other social gathering, often. Just be careful about wasting time or spending more money than you can afford.

Take good care of yourself, your family and your community. Eat good healthy whole food, not processed food. Pay attention to the entertainment and education that you participate in. Make sure it is positive and uplifting, not demoralizing or dehumanizing. Pay attention to what your children are learning, watching on TV and interacting with on the Internet.

You may have to work on your home office based business without your friend’s and relative’s support. In fact, they may be down right hostile to your effort to work in your own home office, especially if you don’t start making lots of money right from the start.

The obstacles and hostility that I’ve experienced towards my effort to earn a living writing and telling stories is astonishing. Be prepared to exercise an iron will to accomplish your legitimate goals. Have a good work ethic and be persistent and realistic.

Steadfastness is a great strength that can help you succeed when it seems like everyone is against you and you’re struggling to get started and everyone is saying you’re being unrealistic and you should just get a job and stop wasting your time and money on a wild goose chase.

Be respectful of everyone, cooperate with your family. Be realistic and keep working on your own free enterprise. Strive to make your business profitable, in order to demonstrate that your business plan is a good one. Make sure that you are productive and very good at earning a living. A good job is one good way to do that. Help each other.

If your close associates are not supportive, then don’t press the issue with them. Promulgate your ideas, your products or services in the free market place. Seek like minded people who will support you. Hang around with the winners.

Spend a significant amount of your time working on being productive and serving God and other people. Read a lot, and listen to audio and video presentations of all kinds of educational and self improvement information and entertainment. Work on increasing your character assets and decreasing your character defects.

Improving yourself, or learning something new about reality, is way more fun and interesting than watching some made up story on TV, or even worse, playing an interactive video game in which the object of the game is to kill people.

Take the initiative. Develop healthy relations with everyone you interact with. Strive to have a beneficial influence on everyone, no matter what anyone else does. If someone you know is corrupt in some way, then be honest and trustworthy with them. Be a good example, rather than adding to the problem by fighting and getting revenge and all that.

Back biting and fault finding are completely useless and destructive character defects. Stop doing that and start seeking solutions, improving yourself and helping others.

Respect your parents. Ask them for help. If you are having an argument with your spouse, consult with your parents about how to solve the problem. If you’re having a problem with one of your kids, then consult with your parents about it. Love and respect your parents and grandparents, as well as your children and grand-children.

If you’re all living together and everyone is contributing to the wealth of the family, you will all be in a far better position than any professional counselor, to consult with and help each other get through any good times and hard times. Your faith and your family values are the best solution to many of the mental health issues plaguing modern civilization.

Strive to keep your family together. I’m not suggesting that you should stay in any abusive relationship. On the contrary, if you are in an abusive relationship, then get out of there as quickly as you can. I am saying that everyone should strive to make your family a strong and safe; loving, caring family.

Find things that you and your spouse like to do and play together. Sometimes, its just you and your spouse. Other times its your whole family. Have fun and love and respect each other. Make sure you are a good healthy member of your family. Take good care of your parents and children and brothers and sisters, etc.

Play with your family and friends often. Eat fresh whole food together with your family every day. Play physically active games that get you all plenty of good healthy exercise.

Treat all your business associates with respect and friendliness. Make sure everyone who trades with you, gets a good deal. Practice loving kindness and justice and compassion, at all times, and in all circumstances.

Surrender to God.